Many times we fall in love with illusory characters ... invented by ourselves... … an article written by the wellknown romanian writer Adrian Dumitru
Many times we fall in love with illusory characters ... invented by ourselves... … an article written by the wellknown romanian writer Adrian Dumitru
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I was hearing her ... saying ...
"You did not accepted and did not loved me as I am, you fell in love with an illusory woman .... whom you invented yourself.
And when you saw that I was not like that ... did not fit the image that you created in your head, it caused disappointment in you, you tried with all your strength to make me the one you wanted and the one that you saw in your head.
And when you realized that it didn't work out, you began to hate the real me.
But this rule is the most important thing ... to love and accept a person as she / he is and not to try to change, only then you can have a very close and real relationship."
She was speaking with Mike ... her lover.
I was at the coffee shop ... and while i was writing ... I've accidentally heard this discussion.
You see ... the coffee shop is really a very nice place to go ... and talk with the partner.
And ... that is what ... Alice was doing.
It is funny ... for myself to hear such theories ... and even if i dislike the concept itself ... to be intrigued by it.
So ... was this lady right?!
Maybe ... yes.
I've came back in time ... thinking of my past relationships ... and wondered what if ... all those stories ended because one day .... I've actually realised that those women were not the women i thought they were.
Yes .. maybe all was about ... my stupidity.
I've created into my mind ... an illusory image ... of a perfect woman ... sort of a princess ... and ... understanding i was wrong ... losing my minds ... i simply had to totally disconnect from that person.
But .... I would like to ask this Alice ...what if this illusory image ... of perfection ... was actually induced to Mike ... by her?!
And ... he just little bit adjusted the projection itself.
Unfortunately ... realising day by day ... that she is actually so far by the image from his mind ... he was driving crazy.
His expectations ... were ruining him.
Daily.
By such a long, long time.
So ... it's all a little bit unclear to me.
Unfortunately .... this couple came into a point of losing the control of the energies of their connection.
And ... somehow it was all ... what could be defined as the prelude of the end.
Most certainly ... they were both responsible of what happened ... but the price of that ... was so, so ugly.
I looked at them ... and it all was so damn clear to me.
But ... when i was on the stage of life ... i haven't understood anything at all.
Most certainly ... i was blind.
You see .... I really am the profile looking for ... a princess.
One from ... fairy tales.
And ... i adore beautiful lies.
... illusory believing that i need to be in a love story ... with such a woman.
So ... most certainly ... I've allowed to be lied.
Same as Mike ... i really believed that "my Alice" ... from that time was a woman ... from fairy tales.
Which means ... into my mind ... i lived in .... fairy tales.
Like ... a little child.
I would ask ... is it ridiculous?!
Is it pathetic?!
Is it stupid?!
Maybe ... no ...
It's ok ... to chase for perfection.
It is really ok.
It's a natural trend.
And ... we should not be ashamed of that ... but on the other hand we must not forget ... we should also be ... realistic.
At least... from time to time.
... cause not all women are ... princesses.
And not every relationship is .... a fairy tale.
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